How To Deal With Disappointment After Exams

Disappointment is a feeling I know too well. It’s a sinking feeling in the heart, the body, mind and soul. You literally feel your energy level gradually decrease. It feels as if sadness merged with bits of anger. 

We’ve all experienced disappointment at one time or another in our lives. Disappointment is natural and sometimes can be difficult to escape. 

I know many students and parents get disappointed after getting their O level or A level results. I just want you to know that it is not the end of the world.

How to Respond to Disappointment?

If you do not perform as well as expected, do not be discouraged. Everyone responds to disappointment in different ways. Identify how we respond when things get tough helps us identify our strengths and weaknesses, and prepares us to face the future. What is important is how you respond to failure.

You can choose to label yourself a total failure and give up completely. You can assume the examiner has made a monumental mistake, and ask for a review of writing or submit an official complaint. You can also choose to shrug it off.

The first step is to acknowledge the poor results and get the support of your family. Many students are afraid to tell their parents whenever they get bad results. As parents, you have to encourage your child and not chastise them. 

Make Positive Decisions.

After acknowledging the poor results, identify where it went wrong. Did you spend too much time playing? Or were you too involved with your CCA?

Identify the factors and make positive decisions! Get rid of whatever is dragging you back and move forward!

It might be difficult to break away from old habits, but you MUST make the change!

See solutions, not problems.

Whenever a student does poorly for the O or A Levels, they see a bleak future. They think that their future is ruined. I can assure you, that is definitely not the case. It might seem like a major setback now, but in years to come, you will realize it is not as bad as it seems.

What you can do now is to find solutions out of your situations. Do you need to quit your CCA? Or get a Math tutor for PSLE? Start looking for solutions instead of problems!

Be kind to yourself.

The last thing you want to do is to be overly harsh on yourself. I repeat again, this is not the end of the world. Do not be overcome by negativity!